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My birth story
September 24, 2008, 12:37 am
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Sorry this has taken a while to post, but here is my side of the story. The hubby plans to add to it later, but for now, here is my take. I am “J” and the hubby is “S.”

So, here are the details of the labor and delivery. Things certainly did not go as we had planned but we have a healthy and happy baby, which is all that matters. The short version: Hard labor for around 28 hours that resulted in a c-section.

Thursday AM: J wakes up feeling a lot more cramping than the last few days and S goes off to work. J starts feeling more contractions and times them around 11am. They are about 10-15 minutes apart and she can still talk through them so they are mild. S comes home from work and decide to take the dog for a walk and have lunch in the park since we know moving around will help. When we get home, the contractions are now 10 minutes apart and becoming more regular. By the time they are consistently 5 minutes apart, we call our Doula. She recommends that we wait an hour and see if they persist.  J tries to lay down but can’t really sleep though the contractions. The contractions are more uncomfortable at this point and she is unable to talk through them. We decide to go to the hospital and get set up.

3pm: Arrive at hospital. They check J and she is barely 1cm dilated. (not good) The doctor tells us that we can either go home and try to get some sleep or stay at the hospital, take a sleeping pill and see where we stand in the morning. We decide to stay at the hospital since the room is pretty cozy and the labor tub is set up. J takes a sleeping pill and tries to sleep through the contractions and manages to not to sleep, but to rest between them. They are still every 3-5 minutes, lasting around a minute long.

10pm: J’s pain increases and she goes into the shower for about 2 hours since that seems to help with the pain. She has “bloody show” and is basically dripping blood everywhere. (sorry for that detail but it took her by surprise that she was bleeding so much)

1am: J’s pain increases and she tells the nurses to fill the tub. S calls our doula and she arrives about an hour later. J continues to stay in the shower and then moves to the tub when the Doula arrives. J goes back into the shower while S and the Doula take turns rubbing her back during contractions. J’s pain continues to increase and is still bleeding everywhere.

7am: J is in hell and gets out of the tub to be checked by the nurse. She is only 4cm dialated. Things are moving really slowly and the contractions are now around 2-3 minutes apart, lasting for about 80 seconds. The doctor comes in and offers to break her water. She agrees and he breaks her water.

8:30am: J is getting to her breaking point and is back in the tub. She tells them that she can’t take it anymore and can’t even imagine doing this for 4 more hours (or longer). Thinking that she may be close to the transition point because she starts to feel an urge to push at the end of the contractions. The Doula and S convince her to go for another 2 hours. Her contractions are every 2 minutes lasting for closer to 90 seconds and sometimes her break between them are cut short by another contraction. She feels that her legs are going to come off at any moment and still can’t believe the hell she is in.

10:30am: J has now been in hard labor for 22 hours and starts to weigh her options. She is is excrutiating pain, doesn’t see the end in sight and knows that she is exhausted. She can keep going naturally but fears that she won’t have any energy left to push by the time she gets there and will end up having a c-section. Or, she can get an epidural, have some relief and still have a chance at delivering vaginally. She asks the nurse to check her to see if she is close. She is at a whopping 6.5cm. J’s loses hope and knows that she can’t keep going for another 2-4 hours, she is at her whits end.

11:am: J gets the epidural. It kicks in after about 5 more contractions and she can’t feel anything anymore. She is very thankful that the pain is gone. Her contractions continue on their own although they give her the lowest dose of pitocin to help speed things along. Her contractions never ease up and they take her off the pitocin.

1:30pm: J is almost at 10cm dilation but still has a lip of her cervix in the way. The doctor moves it and she is now ready to push. J pushes really well for 2 hours and still nothing. The baby is capping and not making progress. The doctor comes in and talks over our options. J by this point, has been in hard labor for 24 hours and is utterly exhausted. He tells her that she can keep pushing because he knew that is what we wanted, but also says that in reality, with the nature of this labor (how slow things are moving and that the baby is 11 days late at this point), he wants her to be realistic that pushing again may not do anything and we should be prepared for the possibility of a c-section. J decides to push some more, but knows that she has no energy left. She decides to have everyone leave her room and give her an hour to rest and save up some energy as well as buy some time to see if the baby will move down on his own. J leans on the squat bar to use gravity and tries to rest.

4:30pm: Time to push again and a new nurse comes in. We try multiple different positions, on my side, on my knees, squat bar, the works. Nothing is happening. The nurse even puts her hands around the capping head and tries everything she can to get him to come down. J decides that it is time to have this baby and knows that a c-section is the best option. Her bottom is so swollen from all of the pushing that everyone who comes in winces when they look at her.

J is prepped for the c-section and at 5:37pm, Oliver S is born. J could barely keep her eyes open during the quick surgery but gives a smile when she hears him cry. The doctor says that the space between her tailbone and her pubic bone is very narrow and the baby may have had a chance to fit through if he wasn’t sunny side up. But his head was crooken and his forehead was stuck on her pubic bone, which is why he wouldn’t move down. J’s cervix was also being pinched by his head which may have accounted for all of the bleeding.

All in all, the labor was a nightmare. J has a new tolerance for pain though which has already proved to be helpful as she recovered from the c-section surgery and her sore ass nipples and boobs full of an abundance of milk.